One of my neighbors posted an article on Facebook that really hit home for me. The article is titled, Strong Women Would Rather Be Alone Than Waste Time With Assholes, and you can read it HERE.
The article says what I have been trying to get across to people, mostly women, over the years when they start to wonder why I do not have a special man in my life. People will say to me, but don’t you want to be in a relationship? Yes, yes, absolutely! I would love to have a special man in my life, but not at the expense of my peace of mind.
Back in the day, many people met their spouse at school, work or within their religious community. The internet has tremendously expanded the potential to meet people. There are dozens of dating websites, including niche sites that cater to specific groups of people such as, Christians, people of color, seniors, and the New Age community, just to mention a few. This is a good thing because the whole world is now open to everyone. You can also meet your special someone through the many social media applications. The possibilities are endless.
No matter how one meets their special guy, I observe many women who seem satisfied accepting less than decent behavior. They will complain about it, but never move on from the relationship. Often, it is not because they cannot leave. Instead they choose not to because having a man that drives them crazy is preferable to being single again.
Strong women are not going to put up with assholes just to have a man. Being with an asshole can drain your energy and peace of mind. It is also a waste of your time. Assholes bring way too much drama into your life for one reason or another. Personally, the way that I see things, if I want drama, I can create my own. I do not need anyone to bring drama to me.
Just in case you are wondering, a strong woman does not expect her man to be perfect. As humans, we are all flawed, but what a strong woman does expect is to be respected and for a man to be a gentleman and real man. Traits such as lying, cheating, selfishness or abuse of any kind are not that of a real man.
Foremost, every woman owes it to herself to know, deep within, that she does not have to accept an asshole into her life. It is okay to remain single and continue on with your life. This does not mean staying at home waiting for a man to drop into your lap from the sky. Instead, it means enjoy life to its fullest! You can travel, go out with friends, attend cultural activities, go skiing, take yoga classes, etc. In doing these things, who knows, you can even come in contact with that special man for you. Always remain open to having a relationship, but also know that you do not have to remain in one that is not fulfilling, and especially if your peace of mind is at risk.